I got the question of first time sex last month on a comment on sexual
niche...well here we are with the 10 commandments of sex, for first
timers!! first sex or with a New guy are similar, While I can't
guarantee you a
religious experience, if you follow my lead I can
promise you a sexual experience that will be all
the more satisfying.
1. Safety first. There's no such thing as totally
safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure
he's wearing a condom (even if you're on the
Pill) and talk about your respective sexual
histories. I know it may sound like a buzz-kill,
but heterosexual women have a higher risk of
contracting an STI (sexually transmitted
infection) than men, so it's up to you to take a
proactive interest in your sexual health.
2. Don't have too-high expectations. Sex
generally improves as you get to know someone
and become more comfortable with each
other's bodies. So don't feel pressured to make
it the best night ever, because this is just the
first of many.
3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and
nerve-wracking, not to mention painful
sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help
you relax and let go.
4. Don't forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff
that leads up to intercourse — kissing,
touching, oral sex — is part of the sexual
experience; it's not just about penetration.
5. Make sure you're amply aroused before
intercourse. Not only do you want to be
genuinely turned on, you want to be
sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll
have trouble entering you, you'll feel
discomfort, and the friction can cause the
condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on
hand just in case.
6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good, and
what doesn't. Guys crave feedback, so don't be
shy about clueing him in.
7. Don't assume he's the expert. He may be
getting a lot of his information about sex from
porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the
locker room. And, even if he is experienced,
every sexual encounter is unique. He's just as
worried about pleasing you as you are about
getting him off.
8. Don't expect to have an orgasm. Of course,
it's great if you do. But, most women don't
climax the first few times with a new guy.
Orgasms come with a sense of comfort and
specific knowledge of each other's bodies, and
that takes time.
9. Don't fake it. If you do, you'll only be
cheating yourself. Letting him know you came
close and want to get there with him will keep
him motivated.
10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get
anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile
difficulty are common the first time a man
sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don't
make a big deal out of it or worry that there's
something wrong with you or your connection.
More than likely, it will work itself out.
niche...well here we are with the 10 commandments of sex, for first
timers!! first sex or with a New guy are similar, While I can't
guarantee you a
religious experience, if you follow my lead I can
promise you a sexual experience that will be all
the more satisfying.
1. Safety first. There's no such thing as totally
safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure
he's wearing a condom (even if you're on the
Pill) and talk about your respective sexual
histories. I know it may sound like a buzz-kill,
but heterosexual women have a higher risk of
contracting an STI (sexually transmitted
infection) than men, so it's up to you to take a
proactive interest in your sexual health.
2. Don't have too-high expectations. Sex
generally improves as you get to know someone
and become more comfortable with each
other's bodies. So don't feel pressured to make
it the best night ever, because this is just the
first of many.
3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and
nerve-wracking, not to mention painful
sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help
you relax and let go.
4. Don't forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff
that leads up to intercourse — kissing,
touching, oral sex — is part of the sexual
experience; it's not just about penetration.
5. Make sure you're amply aroused before
intercourse. Not only do you want to be
genuinely turned on, you want to be
sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll
have trouble entering you, you'll feel
discomfort, and the friction can cause the
condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on
hand just in case.
6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good, and
what doesn't. Guys crave feedback, so don't be
shy about clueing him in.
7. Don't assume he's the expert. He may be
getting a lot of his information about sex from
porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the
locker room. And, even if he is experienced,
every sexual encounter is unique. He's just as
worried about pleasing you as you are about
getting him off.
8. Don't expect to have an orgasm. Of course,
it's great if you do. But, most women don't
climax the first few times with a new guy.
Orgasms come with a sense of comfort and
specific knowledge of each other's bodies, and
that takes time.
9. Don't fake it. If you do, you'll only be
cheating yourself. Letting him know you came
close and want to get there with him will keep
him motivated.
10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get
anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile
difficulty are common the first time a man
sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don't
make a big deal out of it or worry that there's
something wrong with you or your connection.
More than likely, it will work itself out.
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