Telling your strong and independent husband
to stop doing something is an extremely tough
task. But there are little things every husband
should quit doing to help strengthen his
relationship with his wife and save his
marriage.
Here is a list of 9 things every husband
should stop doing today to save his marriage
from a lot of trouble down the road:
1. Stop running away from your problems
Every husband needs to face the emotional,
physical and verbal turmoil in his
relationship head-on. If there is a problem,
stop running away from the tough
conversations that need to take place in order
to solve the issues. Bring up the hot topics
and talk through them.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others
There is no need to compare yourself to the
next man. If you are in a happy marriage, the
battle of seducing and attracting a partner is
over. The game is won. Remember your wife
chose to marry and love you the minute she
said I do. Have confidence in the vows and
commitments you made to each other.
3. Stop holding a grudge
Do not go to bed angry, and do not wake up
ready to address the same fight. Do not create
an identity solely dependent on being the
"wronged" one or the victim. Try to let go of
the need to always be right.
"To let go of our grudge, we have to be
willing to let go of our identity as the
"wronged" one, and whatever strength,
solidity, or possible sympathy and
understanding we receive through that
"wronged" identity," said Reverend Nancy
Colier. "We have to be willing to drop the "I"
who was mistreated and step into a new
version of ourselves, one we don't know yet,
that allows the present moment to determine
who we are, not past injustice."
4. Stop saying you are fine
If you are struggling to cope with a work or
family situation quit saying you are fine.
Openly and adamantly address the source of
your angst. Creating an open forum with your
wife where you can discuss issues and reveal
your feelings will help the two of you draw
closer together.
5. Stop thinking you're a terrible father
Every husband must have confidence in their
ability to father their own children. The lack
of faith is received as inadequacy and a weak
investment in the wellbeing of your own
family.
6. Stop turning down help
Stop believing it is unmanly to ask for help. If
there is a problem that you cannot solve on
your own, remember your wife. You are
married. You are a dynamic duo. Never be
afraid to ask your wife and teammate for
help. Whether you need financial, parenting,
work or emotional support, never be afraid to
reach out and connect with her.
7. Stop with the put-downs
Stop putting down others with casual
complaints and subtle passive-aggressive
comments. Take the time to identify the small
put-downs you say and try to find a way to
eliminate them. You will notice a happier
environment at home and a stronger
relationship with your wife.
8. Stop being ungrateful
Everyone has their own unique way to love
people. Understanding how your wife shows
you love will help you find more reasons to
show appreciation for all of the sacrifices and
small acts of kindness she does for you and
your family.
9. Stop praising items and start praising people
Stop praising and idolizing gadgets, clothes
and worldly items. Start praising the small
things your wife does every day for you. Start
praising your kids for their small and large
accomplishments.
Start praising your coworkers for the effort
and time they put in to helping you and your
company succeed. Stop placing praise in areas
of your life that do not deserve your time and
effort.
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